…or “Trite Phrases About Human Sexuality That Diminish Both Men and Women but Refuse to Exit our Popular Lexicon.”
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I hate the phrase “fuck like a man.” If you haven’t heard this phrase (but also somehow found my blog…” allow me to provide some context. It is about when a cis-gendered femmey woman has sex for the sake of fucking without any strings attached. This is because when a woman has sex like a woman, she does so with visions of romance and mimosas at brunch the next day, always.
To be fair, I am a firm believer in mimosas at brunch or any other time (get your vitamin C and a nice bubbly buzz at the same time!) but if I had a strap-on for every time I, “fucked like a man,” then I would outsell both Goodvibes and Babeland combined. Sometimes I have sex because I’m horny. Sometimes I have sex because I’m on a set and, well, after your first few times you get the idea of what you’ve been hired to do. There was the time when I had sex with a self-identified gay male and it was more of a handshake between two community activists who really liked each other’s style. Nobody came, but that’s par for the course when I shake someone’s hand. I’ve had sex because I was bored, I’ve had sex because I was drunk, I’ve had sex because it was a situation too good to pass up. I have sex for a lot of reasons. I think it’s horrible to limit all of human sexuality into three possible motivations: to secure a relationship, to make a baby, or because you’re a dude.
There is a place for generalizations when it comes to sex. We do have to address the bell curve. Some, many, and most are applicable terms when it comes to sex. I’m not the kind of person who ignores the intent of a speaker and picks a fight over semantics but I find it a little insulting to most of the men I’ve met that they are more than happy to stick their dick in any moist hole the find and leave without any trace of the interaction in their mind. In a similar vein, most women aren’t devising nefarious ways to trap men into marriage. The bottom line is that men and women alike usually have shit to do. The far, overwhelming, and vast majority of the human race will have premarital sex that will not precede marriage with that/those partner(s). Many of these escapades were ignited over 1) curiosity and 2) availability.
Whether I’m horny, or hungry, or bored, or seeking intimacy I fuck like Maggie Mayhem and none other. We all have a myriad of motivations that vary from person to person and setting to setting. The best thing about sex is that it can occur for so many reasons. The only thing that you need is consent. The rest is up to you!
