Hairy Bitches: Or, How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Love My Pubes

Superbush!

I remember the first time I shaved my pubes. I was a teenager and I slid up on a counter and looked my boyfriend dead in the eyes to show my bare pussy. It was as though my smooth cunt was a tractor beam that had his eyes in a solid lock that was pulling him directly into the mothership. Shaving felt taboo, dangerous, and deliberately sexual. He adored it and even I ran my fingers and palm over my own flesh amazed at its sleekness.

Of course I never thought twice about shaving my armpits. At the first sign of hair I looked to the razor the same way one looked to Kotex at the first sign of menstrual blood. Being a woman meant shaving the armpits. It was a ritual for adults. It was instinctual. My pubic hair got to grow in but my pits never had that experience. Hairy arm pits meant that you were the the angry feminist type, probably a lesbian, and probably dirty.

The uniform at my all girls school called for knee-high stockings and a grey pleated skirt. It wasn’t uncommon that many of us would shave the gap between our stockings and hemline as a way to save both time and face for the school day. This lead to to the prank of “socking” someone; if you noticed the girl in front of you had neglected to shave her whole legs you would grab the tops of their stockings and pull them down to their ankles. One part beauty standard enforcement by shaming, another part the sublimation of something sexual we would probably get demerits for talking about aloud.

I’m a recently converted hair girl. It happened as something of a process. I used to shave my pussy for porn and you’ll notice that I’m totally bare for my Kink.Com shoots. You’ll also notice the increasing amount of visible irritation. My skin took a turn for the sensitive (after a course of P.E.P. )  in late 2009. I developed a sensitivity to latex/rubber and my all forms of hair removal resulted in red splotches and strong negative reactions. Everyone had their own easy answer for hair removal but no one mentioned the option of skipping the shaving ritual.

Hairy arm pits and a mountain top view.

“If you’re irritated by shaving you’re just not doing it right” (even if it was never a problem in the past). “You should try waxing” (even if that resulted in massive breakouts.) “Use this shaving lotion! Try that shaving lotion! Use sea kelp on the full moon and say a prayer of hairlessness!”

At first I stopped shaving my pubes and shaved my pits and legs for dates, performances, or special occasions. I went out one sunny day without having done any hair removal and a random dude teased me for my underarm stubble. My first instinct was to make a self-deprecating joke about being a slacker until it dawned on me that I was apologizing for not catering to his preferred hair aesthetic. Moreover, I realized that I didn’t even know what my armpits even looked like with full growth and I was curious. Why was I keeping a secret from myself anyway?

So then I let it grow and grow. As it turns out, I’m rather fond of my full bush and my hairy armpits. On one hand, it means less porn work is available to you. On the other hand, there’s a new group of fans and admirers to get to know. It’s interesting how fluid desire and aesthetics are. When full hair was the expected standard, it was taboo to shave it. Now it’s much more taboo to be a femme bear.

I’m also fascinated by the fact that hairness is considered masculine even though the term “bush” is still has a strong feminine connotation. I don’t think hairiness is either masculine or feminine so much as it is mammalian. I’ve had lots of fun with it, too. I’ll wear an evening dress with traditionally smoky facemakeup and a splash of glitter in my pit hair. Using temporary hair color on my pussy hair can add some energy to a shoot.

What’s interesting about hair is the way its an amplifier for arousal. The smell of my pussy is like my invisible hard-on. I love the sensations I get from stroking or tugging on my hair. By sporting my hair I am not opposing anyone removing theirs. Sometimes I have interactions with women who spot it and fumble through commentary about how they aren’t judging my hair but they like to shave and they totally choose it and it’s totally not because there is an expectation of hairlessness for women. In those situations, I’m usually like “…or maybe instead of marinara we could totally do a pesto sauce…armpits?”

I like pussy smothering with a full bush and it turns me on when someone laps up the sweat from my pits. High heels on hairy legs look great on any gender, not just boys. I don’t center my grooming rituals around shocking people but I’m amused that I do. I’m amazed that jaded adult industry veterans will still double take at the sight of hair crawling out from T-shirts and panties like the it was the most obscene thing they’ve ever seen. Having public hair crawl out of my panties like Audrey II: XXX kind of puts a spring in my step.

I love my rowdy Jungle bush. I like the way it’s warm and damp and looks so dense it could strangle you and then swallow you whole. I love when I can smell my horny cunt through my jeans. I think it’s utterly absurd that so many people are intimidated by hair under my arms. I love how men will come up and tell me out of the blue just how unfuckable they think I am and how they won’t ever go down on an unshaved pussy. I stay up at night crying and grieving over the loss of these obviously fantastic partners. With an attitude like that I can be totally certain that they’re invested in my orgasm and I’ll never have to worry about getting a bad case of “blue clit” because they think it’s weird that I want to use a vibrator while we fuck.

It’s weird that so many people do think of having depilation averse skin as a condition to be remedied. It’s really a non-problem problem. The answer is totally free and easy: just don’t remove your hair. Bam! Horrible red blotchiness and wretched breakouts solved. Gone. Obliterated. Moreover, I don’t feel burdened by my body hair. My partner digs it, I dig it, and there are a growing number of people who totally dig it, too. We’re just hanging out and being hairy. Have fun shaving, collect straight razors (I still think they’re sexy!), and modifying your body how you see fit. But, when I don’t know you and you blurt out how much you love shaving, I think you’re the one with the hair issues, not me. Also, go away creeper.

It’s just hair. It turns out that removing mine has averse effects. I stopped doing it and refused to hate myself for being burdened with hair. I actually like how it worked out.  When someone’s really into it, it’s like my cunt got an upgrade on its tractor beam pulling folks into the mothership for some hot femme bear action.

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20 responses to “Hairy Bitches: Or, How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Love My Pubes

  1. Love love love this piece. So much truth in there.

    I’ll admit, I do shave. But genuinely, only when I want to. (I had an interview this afternoon and was annoyed to realise my dress sleeves were too short to keep my armpit hair. I agree with you, but didn’t want to ruin my chances of a job just for armpit hair.)

    One of my biggest kinks is being shaved by my partner, but for that to be really sexy, I have to have a nice bush to begin with! So I get to grow it out. Variety is the spice of life.

    As for legs? I often leave them unshaved before dates; I reckon it’s a good measure of a man. If he doesn’t want me with hairy legs, then I don’t want him at all.

    Anyway, just… thank you! And I love the bush; especially in those knickers. Fabulous.

  2. Lucy Hunter

    I’ve always been quite a hairy lady. My bush is thick as fuck, not to put too fine a point on it. Shaving the whole thing off feels like trying to shave a tiny bear – and the skin underneath is always itchy and irritable. Eventually, I just stopped trying – but I always felt ashamed of it.

    So I’d just like to say that I love it when women like you come along and say these things. It reminds me that I’m not a freak for not being all smooth and pink and “pretty” down there. It reminds me that people do find it sexy. I’m sexy! So thank you. Made my day a little bit.

  3. First off, Femme Bear? LOVE THIS. Totally using this now. Thanks!
    I was never interested in shaving my body hair (thanks, hippie parents!) – I think I shaved my legs & armpits for 8th grade, then said “fuck this.”
    I remember in my late teens – when I was at UCSC, actually – and had my first threesome. Later that sweet couple told me that they’d stayed up late after fucking to discuss how totally hot my armpit hair was. Another formative lover at that time grabbed my armpit hair the very first time we got sexual and growled into my ear “I *LIKE* this.” Needless to say, I’ve gotten some great positive reinforcement!
    More recently I’ve experimented with removing some of my pubic hair. I’m too invested in my long head-hair to remove it or modify it permanently (hair down to my ass took WORK) but my pubic hair grows right back! Want a mohawk? Easy. A pink mohawk? Even better. I’ve had a good time experimenting, while being really glad that the part I care about is having FUN with it. Plus, the first time I shaved my cunt hair I learned that my inner labia stick out a bit like a tongue sticking out of a mouth and I *love* that. Thanks, irreverent bits!

    Also, I don’t know why I haven’t commented much before this. I love your blog, Maggie!

    • I’m working on modifying the Bear Flag by putting nailpolish on the claws for the FEMME BEARS! Rawr! Also, I remember your pit hair and thinking how hot it was and how bad ass you were to rock it. It was a big inspiration.

      When it comes to pubes, I was one of the few people I knew who thought “vajazzling” was a great idea. My favorite “vajazzle” was putting googly eyes in the form of a muff. I think it’s awesome to decorate ourselves in our own visions.

      XOXO

      • Ahh, I love the idea of modifying the Bear Flag. Have you heard about femme nailpolish flagging? I don’t think it’s caught on much, but we’ve gotta start somewhere, right?
        Thanks for the sweet words about my pits! My 19 year-old self woulda creamed herself a bit – I had such a huge crush on you and totally cringe now at how inept I was at expressing it. Live & learn, right?
        An ex-and-now-dear-friend of mine recently had a one-night art show that was all about the awesomeness of googly eyes – complete with ridiculous artist manifesto, of course. They stuck googly eyes on famous paintings, completely covered a pair of pumps in ‘em … it was pretty spectacular. Ridiculous manifesto here: http://www.wherevent.com/detail/Libby-Bulloff-Vandal-Eyes-A-Terribly-Serious-Art-Event
        Spectacular Roommate and I have been talking about getting into some ridiculous hijinks with my pubes soon – we’re thinking shaving and waxing a moustache in. Googly eyes would be a great addition to the photos! It might be a bit extra-hipster, but we snicker every time we think about so I think it’d be worth it for the fun of the evening alone.

  4. Fae

    I can’t remember the last time I shaved my pubes. I have a dimple where my outer labia join my pubic mound, so it’s impossible to completely remove everything to smooth perfection. I’m a perfectionist, if I’m going to do something, I want to do it right, and oh I have tried! It’s just not worth the razor burn and stubble.

    Speaking of stubble, my body hair grows fast, though it is fine and light (if only my head hair grew as fast). I have no desire to shave my legs daily, so I don’t. It doesn’t bother my husband, but even if it did, it wouldn’t change my attitude.

    I shave my underarms every couple of weeks or so, though I have the odd skin tag, so I probably shouldn’t at all. Catching those hurt like a bitch!

    I don’t feel like not shaving is a personal statement for me, it just is what it is.

  5. Falbert

    Several decades ago, I came to the conclusion that it’s all just hair – trim as needed. I clip armpits and groin about the same time I do the hair atop my head – not a buzzcut, just enough off the top.

  6. It’s funny how you can completely not agree with someone’s point of view and still absolutely adore their skill at expressing it and their confidence in it.

    I’m too deeply entrenched in society’s cookie-cutter mold of mainstream beauty …still, you make a great case ;)

  7. Sam

    It’s great to read an article like this and know there are real women out there who are tired of shaving and leave it natural. As a guy in his 20′s it’s almost impossible to find a girl like you who is comfortable with herself. Thanks for inspiring a little hope into finding this amazing lady!

    • Bitter Young Lesbian

      All appearances are “fake” to some degree. Having a complex about women being as “natural” as possible is no more appealing than requiring women to shave. It comes from exactly the same place. It really doesn’t matter if your desires are closer or further from Standardized Beauty. Preferences are cool, generalizations about vast numbers of women solely because they don’t suit your preferences when you feel they should aren’t.

  8. Sarah

    My first thought when I saw the pic was, Holy shit, that’s my bush. I have those panties! That’s what I look like in the mirror! Holy shit!

    I, too, have thick body hair and easily irritated skin. It took a lot to finally give up the bullshit I bought into, even after I stopped shaving.

    So, thanks for this post. It’s just hair, and it baffles me that it’s so frightening to some people.

  9. Chinnamasta

    I wouldn’t care so much about hair removal if my “bush” didn’t extend to mid thigh. I am one hairy bitch. Not really my thing. I find the average hairy bush quite attractive, but I feel a bit hirsute myself.

  10. emma

    hey guys . . love the original post and your general blog maggie you are one fantastic looking lady too! =) I personally do shave . . . i love the feeling of my smooth pussy but i don’t let it take over, if it grows it grows . . although tbh i’ve shaved for so long now it doesn’t itch or anything anymore . . . i never used to before i started experimenting with girls but after going down on several i found that on girls with big bushes i couldn’t get ‘in there’ as much as i wanted to and on girls with shaved pussies the stubble was distracting . . . . i have no idea whats best really, i suppose a happy middle ground . . not stubbly but not big enough to camp out in i guess would be my own preference =) . . . my partner now says he loves it whatever i do but he definitely goes south more when i’m shaved! haha! i don’t think it matters either way, as long as you’re clean down there, women are beautiful creatures and were meant to have hair, i personally feel cleaner without but who knows? one day that might change and i may start growing my own ‘tiny bear’! hehe! light and love to all xx

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  12. Paul

    Another good read Maggie… I too am averse to shaving down there (Yes, I am a guy, but I manscape). For me, shaving causes rashes and really bad ingrown hairs… I always figured that if I wanted any partners to shave or trim, then I better do the same, (and I like the way it looks and feels). I have a wicked gag reflex and hate gagging on pubes (I still appreciate a bush, but I am very careful when I caress and bury my tongue in one). But I love eating pussy and getting head. I find oral sex to be very sensual and a surefire way to work up to a much more intense climax/O. And nothing delivers the pheromones like a hot bush.

    My final solution was hair clippers and a No#1 attachment (the clippers without the plastic attachment can be sharp and give you little nicks, the #1 attachment is the shortest one and it works well without the pain and blood)… It trims the pubes short, but just long enough to still be soft and not stubble and doesn’t cause ingrown hair…

    You obviously do not need this, I just figured I would mention it if you feel like you just want to try something a little different (play with the do) at some time in the future… Best of all, it’s not shaving, so it shouldn’t irritate you. It’s not going to be a baby smooth shave, but it will give your downtown girl a fresh new do (and that might score you some more work if you are so inclined)

  13. Cass

    Right on Maggie – great article. I am male, in my fifties and my youth was spent with artists, musicians and bikers so yeah, on the fringes shall we say. All the women I knew or dated went natural. Some shaved legs, but none armpits or muff. And thats just the way it was. It wasn’t like a big “stick it the da man” statement, it was more a case of…..well why the heck WOULD you? Its sexy!
    So to me its very disturbing that we are now in some kind of new puritanical age when any body hair is considered disgusting or gross. How the heck did that happen?
    Anyhoo, well done you for choosing to stay furry, and for writing so eloquently about it, and possibly encouraging other girls to consider it.

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  15. Paul2

    Just wanted to say thanks! My GF sent me this article while doing some research. Last Fall she started having bad skin sensitivity issues and stopped shaving entirely. In Fall/Winter it wasn’t such a problem but now that its Spring/Summer she’s getting nervous and self conscious about it, especially her bikini line, it’s very much like your pic above. As well her knee sock collection has grown significantly! I have absolutely no opinion one way or the other, as long is she is happy. What does turn me on about it is how incredibly strong and self confident one is to say fuck it to social norms and taboo’s. At first I was amazed at how much body hair she has and how much work really went into shaving all of it. Seems like such a pain in the ass and she definitely doesn’t miss that! Anyways, thank you so much for this article, it put a huge smile on her face. Also, now we both have a crush on you and love your videos. She now loves watching women with big bushes ;)

  16. Great post ! I love hairy girls that accept themselves as their are ! pretty women ! Nature is hairy and I like to be natural and I like supernatural women. Dont shave or trim. Dont do it !! Be happy and smile !!

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