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Stop Dominatrix Shaming

There’s a disturbing trend in critiques of the “BDSM Scene” to blame the dominatrix for ills and inequalities among the real players. Let’s cut right to the heart of why this is bullshit: sex workers live at the mercy of the state on top of being stigmatized. For those who care about consent, remember that this is a form of adult consent that the state says that you cannot make and that feminists say you must be mad or mindless or both to pursue and then society says that when you cross that river you can never really come back.

Sex workers not only lack the right to make a consensual transaction, sex workers are also denied their rights to justice in American courtrooms. This means all sex workers.Why can’t we go to the police? What the fuck good will it ever do for us? We don’t live in a Law and Order world where our glamorized dead bodies are sneered at and justice is seen as fetishizing the law even when it’s a whore. I’m going to illustrate with a story I obsessed over as it occurred. My favorite coverage came from the OC Weekly and starts off with this paragraph:

No one disputes that an on-duty Irvine police officer got an erection and ejaculated on a motorist during an early-morning traffic stop in Laguna Beach. The female driver reported it, DNA testing confirmed it and officer David Alex Park finally admitted it.

To really paint the picture, an officer of the law stalked this woman. It was such a problem that even his department told him to knock it the fuck off. On this night, he stalked her. He turned off his GPS in the patrol vehicle so the car wouldn’t record where he was. He waited until she was on a secluded road.

He was acquitted.

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Shocking Teen Orgies Ignite Widespread Mania!

I hate when there’s a sex panic about teenagers. Here’s one: ZOMG! THERE ARE SOME TEENS WHO HAVE HAD MULTI-PERSON SEX! 

This study was shocked, shocked! to discover that 7.3% of girls aged 14-20 have had MPS- multi person sex. It’s a study that also utterly fails to forget that there are very few places where teens can go and they tend to travel in groups. Teens don’t have the luxury of saying, “Your place or mine?” to one another when the feeling is right.

That’s not to say that this doesn’t come with problems. You know how it’s illegal to drink alcohol until you’re 21 in the US and yet most college students enter at age 18? You know how that started to create a little problem known as 19 year olds drinking to their deaths during hazing rituals? So, we suspend teens who send sexy or lewd text messages even outside of school hours. We withhold information about sex. We also strongly limit where teens can get together and blow off some steam.

Teenagers don’t have studio apartments. Maybe they have cars, all ages punk rock venues, hamburger stands, coffee shops, dances, parking lots, playgrounds, and their one friend who has parents vacationing in Europe. It’s not like teenagers invented the rule that you had to be 18 or sometimes even 21 to rent a hotel room.

We’re terrified of teens fucking. We’re terrified of teenagers in packs. In 2011 we’re terrified of teenagers fucking in packs. Who knows what next year will bring.

Multi person sex…sounds like the quintessential 1950s “lover’s lane” if you ask me. Maybe if I want to be a famous sociologist I can popularize the phrase, “episodes of vehicular exhibitionist indecency.” These spots were out of the way places where teens wouldn’t bother or be bothered by any meddlers while they engaged in their various mating rituals. Whether or not the researchers went to prom, I can only imagine that they’ve heard of this popular teen tradition of simulating the act of heterosexual marriage including consummation.

Isn’t there a scene in the original “Invasion Of The Body Snatchers” in which the alien invasion zapping the American-ness out of the city residents is evidenced by an entirely empty “lover’s lane?” The fact that there weren’t a bunch of cars full of young romantic couples in love out by the lake necking was a sign that shit was getting all kinds of fucked up.

Multi-person sex among teens is also known as, “DUDE! Steve’s parents are out of town and he has a heated swimming pool in his backyard! Party Friday night!” Are there hazards to this? Quite a few, most of which could be addressed by being realistic about the fact that teenagers are exploring themselves and adulthood. When we illegalize adolescence, we kill our youth. That’s what the statistics are showing us. Teens are doing something new. It’s the same old thing, the same old panic, and increased surveillance and criminal penalties.

The only way to survive being a teenager without getting yourself a record is to be rich or a child suddenly thrown into adulthood at 18 or 21 without any of the experience to handle what’s happening. It’s just frustrating to see muckraking masquerading as social science.

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Take Back The Night v. Slut Walk

In 1978, the first “Take Back the Night” March in the United States was held as a public demonstration against the connection between sexual violence, trafficking of women, and pornography. Thousands of women marched and chanted through a section of San Francisco heavily inhabited by purveyors of pornography, blocking traffic and access to these vendors. Today’s marches focus more on awareness, survivor healing, and wellness on college campuses and in communities rather than challenging oppressive practices by vendors. -”Take Back The Night” Event Handbook

Take Back The Night has a long history of encouraging the survivors of sexual violence to speak out about their experiences and to create a structure for those who want to see an end to sexual violence. It is also important to note that many TBTN events are working towards being more inclusive. Nevertheless, some passionate organizers of events who have moved for gender neutrality have had their concerns dismissed by feminist leaders as “impossible attempts to please everyone.” An organizer clearly stating that they were uncomfortable with having to police gender was told that there would always be criticisms of the event and to just let them go. Let’s be clear- gender policing is not the same as choosing a color scheme that everyone will appreciate, especially when it is often femininity that is attacked with violence rather than femaleness. Gender policing is a form of violence, by the way.

It is vital to support any and all victims of sexual violence, assault, and rape. It is also important to help promote the power of consent and to acknowledge firmly that sexual assault is not a man v. woman issue. There is such a thing as male privilege; there is also such a thing as mainstream feminist privilege.

I am very deeply uncomfortable with Take Back The Night despite its meager attempts to modernize and become inclusive. Although TBTN “no longer focuses on the oppressive practices” of the adult industry it has not denounced them.

Slut Walk is a model that picks up where TBTN has refused to go. Slut Walk Toronto has received its fair share of criticism and it has listened. At first the original organizers developed a model of “official satellite” slut walks but have decided that a hierarchical model would be less effective for its mission than a general collective. In lieu of a formal handbook and trademark, it states that the needs of each and every community are distinct and beyond the jurisdiction of a ruling body and represents many of the values that distinguish 2nd Wave Feminism from 3rd Wave Feminism. Many supporters of Slut Walk, like myself, may not even identify as feminists at all.

The word “slut” is contentious and the website acknowledges this and outright states that making use of the word “slut” may not work for every community. Is reclaiming “sluttiness” an extension of white privilege? Are the self-described “spinster aunts” of I Blame The Patriarchy right when they say that slut is an innately patriarchal word? (As a note, IBTP can go take a hike for referring to themselves as “aunties” here to help young misguided slutty women like myself.) I do worry about diversity within pro-sex and anti-oppression movements. I also worry about the fact that as an out and loud sex worker, my rights as an American have been more or less stripped from me. Sex Workers rarely receive justice for homicide committed against them let alone sexual assault. The mainstream feminist movement is in bed with right wing religious fundamentalists more concerned with eradicating offensive images than social justice.

Reclaiming the word “slut” is about the fact that no one has the right to dictate the right clothes to wear, what constitutes an appropriate sexual fantasy, how many partners one should have in the lifetime, or the type of media anyone should be allowed to consume.

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The Life Zone and Kenneth Del Vecchio

Right off the bat, since I have absolutely no regard for this film whatsoever I’m just going to go ahead and pass along the spoilers. Read at your own risk.

The writer of the film Kenneth DelVecchio is running for the state senate in New Jersey. He is very open about his pro-life stance. This movie is his baby. If you’re reading this in New Jersey I strongly urge you to take this post into consideration as you cast your ballot.

So here’s the plot twist: the three women all died on the operating table of their abortions in the first trimester. They are in purgatory and given another chance to make the right choice, atone for their sin, and enter the gates of heaven. The adamantly pro-choice victim deliberately attempts to miscarry at 7mos and experiences the joy of motherhood with twins. The other women also give birth after having accepted the notion of abortion as sin and ascend into heaven. The pro-choice victim is condemned to an eternity of pregnancy and childbirth without ever actually getting to be with her children. The other twist: the pro life doctor is actually a woman who committed suicide after her husband left her for a more fertile woman when she was unable to conceive. She’s being condemned to an eternity of midwifery.

So first off, we are still left with this image that the all-knowing, all-loving, merciful God is in fact, Jigsaw.

Not only is God judging you for your sins, he’s also setting you up. That’s right, the author of the universe is just fucking with you. God is incredibly sadistic and hateful to women it seems. Haha, you’re insecure about the infertility that I gave you? It drove you to despair and you chose suicide- now you will be delivering babies in the afterlife FOREVER! And you, little miss choosey, since all women will inevitably feel unimaginable joy when they deliver, even by force, a baby- you will be pregnant and delivering babies FOREVER! Babies that will be taken away from you!

Here’s the part that makes me really antsy. I noticed this comment left on the movie: “Hello all. I am one of the producers of this film and have read all of your comments. All I will say at this time is that this movie is a collaboration among people on all sides of the abortion issue, and people should see the movie before jumping to any conclusions. While the writer of the movie is a staunch pro-lifer, many of us who worked on this film are pro-choice and the arguments on both sides of the abortion issue are clearly and intelligently laid out in the film.” – Nace Naumoski.

Well, thing of it is Nace, the very format of this film makes it totally impossible to clearly and intelligently lay out any kind of pro-choice argument.

First off, you have to accept the idea that deaths during abortions are somehow common or at least an understandable premise. They aren’t. The very premise is fear mongering and a strategy of the pro-life movement. If you want to talk about risk of death, take a glance at maternal mortality rates.

Second problem: “It’ll be a 7 month abortion think tank.” Right, because the place we really ought to be having this debate is with pregnant women kidnapped from an abortion procedure and forced against their will by their captors to continue their pregnancy. You bring out the rational side of the debate with a pastor who calls himself “the jailer.” I’m no sociologist but I have to question whether or not Stockholm Syndrome might skew the findings there just a little bit.

Third problem: Suicide is considered to be a sin equal to abortion. There’s a lot to unpack in a statement like that. To address the mental health paradigm, this reiterates the idea that people choose suicide because they are weak. That’s total fucking bullshit. There is all kinds of stuff happening with mental health. All we know is how little we know. We’re all scratching our heads at the statistics showing us that placebos are more effective against depression than either prozac or prayer. The cultural paradigm that people choose suicide or that depression is a weakness of the soul is killing people. So we have a message that if you’re suffering from depression, you have fallen from God’s grace which is pretty damn archaic or the modern version in which you are advised to “talk to your pastor” about what you’re experiencing.

Religious authority figures generally come out of schools of divinity or schools of theology. These degrees are generally offered in the graduate and doctorate levels. Thing of it is, would anyone advise someone experiencing depression to call up a professor with a PhD in anthropology or history or literature to discuss the issues they are having with their mental health? There certainly are religious figures in all denominations who do have training and certification in counseling. It’s not, however, part of the packaged deal in the curriculum for an advanced degree in a study of religion. It’s just something to consider before blindly advising anyone that their religious authority figures are totally trained and prepared for mental health issues. If you want a therapist who comes from your religious background, you can find that. You can also find kink/poly/sex work aware professionals. You want to find a therapist that meets your needs, but you need to start with the “therapist” part of that sentence.

To get back to the point, considering this film to be somehow even-handed in the debate because the pro-life character is also condemned to an eternity in hell is a bizarre denial of reality. Killing off a character (or condemning them to hell, whatever) doesn’t change the debate about abortion itself. Especially not when the debate has already allowed stereotypes, generalizations, and information into the debate as legitimate arguments.

The most compelling argument about abortion for me has been this: I would no sooner force someone to surrender their body for the development of another human being than I would force someone who was a direct match for someone in need of organs or blood to donate them. For as long as I was allowed by the Red Cross standards for blood donors, I donated blood. I donated all the time. My driver’s license says “organ donor.” I believe that if you can, you should. I do not believe that you must. I believe you own your own body. Pregnancy and childbirth are exponentially more complex both physically and socially. Nevertheless, at no point should the government start mandating that everyone with an O- blood type line up at their nearest hospital because the patients have a right to life and need more blood to survive.

I’m really not kidding. There are way more people dying than there are people on organ donor lists, so if you’re a “right to life” sign waving motherfucker you should be trotting your sanctimonious assess down to the donor registry. If you believe that being capable of physically sustaining life with your own body mandates that you do so, you better be on a first name basis with the red cross phlebotomists.

This isn’t just a crappy movie and its problems number more than 3. The problem is that you cannot come up with any legislative reason why abortion should not be legal in the United States. Ultimately it comes down to a fuzzy intangible thing like faith but that cannot be the basis for law. Political ideology born out of morality is dangerous. If The Life Zone were an anomaly or just a shitty movie, it wouldn’t be an assessment of whether or not they would be a good politician. Just because someone makes shitty horror films does not automatically make them a bad politician. Most politicians don’t even know the first thing about making a horror film. Kenneth Del Vecchio is up front about his beliefs. They’re part of his campaign.  Here’s another one of his fine contributions to cinema:

Did you all see that? Now here’s this:

This begs the question: does anyone have a cocktail recipe for a drink that is mixed with tears of bitterness?

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“Fuck Saw” as a red herring: Northwestern University Sex Toy Demonstration

Northwestern University psychology Professor J. Michael Bailey’s human-sexuality course included an after-class optional demonstration that did involve sexuality, penetration, and orgasm. It’s creating a buzz around the web and in sex positive circles. Some are calling it “controversial” others are calling it a inappropriate use of university space. Even sex positive critics are questioning what the point of the demonstration was, exactly.

First off, I think the mainstream media is getting off on being able to say “Fuck Saw” in their article which actually makes the demonstration a little more interesting. In and of itself it’s irrelevant. No funds were directed to the demo, everyone consented including the audience, it was designed for anyone who had some spare time and was curious. My question about the hullaballo is around how the discourse of this demonstration would change if we stopped calling the device in question a “Fuck Saw” (its brand name) and called it a handheld motorized dildo.

Was the demonstration potentially pointless? Sure. Every single lecture I ever sat through in University was potentially pointless. You can only take away what you’re open to hearing and for a lot of people it might very well be important to see a fuck saw used on a woman because the only time a device like this is spoken about in academic circles is in an anti-porn context. Actually seeing that the fuck saw is not, in fact, a chain saw can literally change the entire context of the debate for someone. It wasn’t mandatory, it was there if you wanted to see it and participate in a discourse about it with the people involved. It seems to me that it’s a perfectly fine place for an optional demonstration of that nature.

Although people are incredibly uncomfortable with the idea of explicit sex in classroom, sex is a human activity worthy of critical study. When you recontextualize sex and put it in a lecture hall for the expressed purpose of dissecting it, theoretically and critically, it loses its erotic charge and becomes almost medicalized. We talk about “the male gaze” or the “female gaze” but there are also “academic gazes” and “medical gazes” and explicit sex is just as worthy of an intellectually focused gaze as a piece of art, architecture, philosophy, psychology, anthropology, sociology, literature, et al. Universities study two things: nature and humanity. Sex is very much a part of both.

It looks to me like the media eroticized that demonstration more than anyone else in the room and that’s interesting.

 

[Edit: Maymay did an amazing wrap up of all the links along with some of his insightful commentary before me. How did I miss that? Click this link if you want to read more.]

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Anti-Porn Flowchart For Easy Essay Writing

How to upgrade your speaker fee in one simple lesson! (Click to enlarge)

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Save Lyon-Martin

A new 'do for a new year. Photo by Ned

Lyon-Martin Health Services has been an indispensable clinic here in the Bay Area since 1979. Sadly, they are facing closure unless they raise over $250,000. For those of you who have never benefited from the amazing services that Lyon-Martin provided, let me fill you in a bit.

As a culturally sensitive community clinic, Lyon-Martin has been a safe haven for queer women and transgender people. They provide a spectrum of services ranging from HIV testing, counseling, primary care, gynecologic care, transgender care, HIV+ care, breast health, and integrated behavioral health. They have provided care for little or no cost to make sure that those without funds do not go without care. Sadly, we have lost too many clinics in recent years. The Women’s Choice Clinic in Oakland closed its doors a few years ago limiting access to much needed services here in the Bay Area.

Those with alternative sexualities are welcome at Lyon-Martin. They don’t judge, they help support the health of the community. We cannot lose this resource. We cannot keep losing these resources.

There are so many ways to help support Lyon-Martin and we must do so quickly.

  • You can buy a sexy pin-up calendar full of sexy models and activists.
  • Send a donation via check to 1748 Market Street, Suite 201, San Francisco, CA 94102.
  • Make a donation over the phone by calling 415-901-7131.
  • Donate online.
  • Come out to an awesome event this Sunday in San Francisco! I’ll be there! Ain’t no party like an activist party, you know.
  • Check out the many efforts of the community to save the clinic here.
  • Start your own event or fundraiser! Host a house party, do a silly dance, do something. Lyon-Martin needs help and they need help now.
  • Show me your donation receipt and receive a free sexy 8.5 x 11 print from yours truly!

If you love the sexy things that we’re doing out here in the Bay Area, please help support an amazing clinic that helps keep us healthy.

 

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Getting Literary

Pamela, or Virtue Rewarded. Note: It has a foundation in TRUTH and NATURE

In November of 1740 Samuel Richardson published his lengthy novel Pamela to immediate popularity and success. It’s unlikely you’ve heard of it unless you’ve done any study of British novels published in the 18th century, but I think it’s a very pertinent read right now in 2010. I will also concede that it’s a bit boring and dry at parts so I’ll do some basic plot summary for you.

The novel was written in the new literary format of the epistle, that is to say, a novel constructed around letter writing or diary format. Our protagonist is a 15 year old servant girl by the name of Pamela who has been employed by the very rich Mr. B since the age of 12. Oh, but Mr. B is a randy fellow who has been trying to get into her knickers since he first set eyes upon her. Luckily, under the watchful eye of her mother she was safe from his advances. Then, tragically, her mother dies and now Pamela must rely on her wits to protect her virtue. In fact, the full name of the title is Pamela, or Virtue Rewarded and the major bulk of the book is a game of cat and mouse in which Mr. B does everything possible to seduce and ravish the young girl.

Richardson was an innovative writer and the style that he uses to tell this story was truly groundbreaking. A popular device of the British novel was to tell “a true story” despite the fact that these were books purely for entertainment and works of fiction. Even though we look back on these times as being stodgy and a little dull, it really was the reality TV of the time and novels were very popular among women. Richardson took a risk by creating the structure of the epistolary novel to lend credence to the idea that his words were actually those of a young girl and it caught on like wildfire. Suddenly, every writer was using this format and it remained popular well into the 19th century.

Pamela reveals the secret location of her letters to a potential suitor

Pamela may have been born to poor parents, but luckily this was a time before things like child labor laws and compulsory education ruined everyone’s fun and at the ripe old age of 12 she is sent off to be a servant to the lovely and very rich Mrs. B where she spends her days lacing corsets, developing a strong relationship with the motherly head servant, and learning to be a lady. All-in-all, it’s not a bad life. In her 15th year, Mrs. B tragically passes away and her bachelor son comes home to roost in his inheritance throwing Pamela’s life upside down. He is instantly attracted by her good looks and without things like “sexual harassment laws” or “workplace protection” he hounds her mercilessly trying to get the one asset that Pamela has- her virtue.

Mr. B tries every single trick in the book to seduce her and these are truly the highlights of the novel. He tries to woo her. He threatens to marry her off to the very prototype of the “Igor” archetype who is ugly, smelly, and bad company in general. He locks her away in an estate informing her parents that she is having an affair and the move is wholly necessary to “protect her reputation.” He even tries to lay in bed with her dressed in drag as one of the more homely female servants. Towards the end he offers her a financial contract written in articles that would prove to be very lucrative for her, but she declines because she will not accept the role of a mistress. After hundreds of pages he finally relents and offers her the equitable marriage she has been seeking.

The reason why I think this novel is so fascinating in today’s context is because of the reception it received upon its release. The populace simply adored it but there were some very harsh critics. Eliza Haywood, another popular female writer of the time, composed Anti-Pamela and Henry Fielding wrote An Apology for the Life of Mrs. Shamela Andrews both highlighted the fact that virginity was a valuable financial asset to Pamela and both write stories where the female protagonist is smart, cunning, and ruthless either deliberately using virginity as a ploy or in the case of Shamela as a carefully constructed ruse in which she is really a prostitute teaming up with her mother to take men for everything they have.

No matter the time or place, human beings have fascinating relationships with sex. We as a species have always had premarital and extramarital sex. It is what we have done, what we do, and what we will continue to do throughout the course of history. Virginity, specifically female virginity, is the hunt for the white stag. All of these writers were aware of the fact that is is a commodity. This may be a well organized dowry calculated by the cultural standards of beauty and social status or a winning bid on eBay, but the value of virginity is always pretty easy to link to money. These novels never downplay Pamela’s intelligence (Pamela is always an oddly complex character even through the eyes of three different writers) but the parodies and satires point out the fact that virginity is not just an oblique moral state-of-being. Why do we still have phrases like, “why buy the cow when the milk is free,” if virginity was not in fact just a financial venture?

Fathers it's up to you to preserve your daughter's virginity!

I look around at my own time and place here in America where there are innumerable patches of sexual culture. My own “San Francisco values” are distinctly different from parts of the country where purity balls are so common. At a purity ball, a father vows to protect his daughter’s chastity. I even read an account where a father got his daughter a necklace with a lock on it and kept the key until the day she married when he handed it off to her lawfully wedded husband. Now that’s kinky and creepy, amiright? In a few centuries, what will people say about our sexual culture? Will we be looked at as a predominantly Pamela based culture with a few Shamela detractors? Is virginity less of a moral issue than it is an economic issue? Will we ever have a society in which we acknowledge the infinite diversity of sexual experience and accept the spectrum?

Picture taken from a Purity Ball - Link to a purity website

I do want to conclude by stating that I’m not telling anyone to go out and read this novel. Please bear in mind that I find pleasure in being tied up and beaten so any of my pleasure recommendations should be taken with a grain of salt. It’s a tedious read, without a doubt. I’m also the kind of person who loves talking about how fascinating the first edition of the English dictionary is. I think that the satire written in response to Pamela is far more witty and engaging (as any well done satire is apt to be) but it’s really hard to fully process it without having encountered its target first. Just don’t find me after class to steal my glasses and shove me into a locker because I’m a huge nerd. I wrote this little summary to point out that we’re all participants in a larger tradition. For every person who believes that the hymen is holy, there is someone else who believes that the hymen should be hole-y. Even virtue has a shadow.

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Batshit Insane Abstinence Educators

Ah, the joys of federally funded abstinence educators. They were a dime a dozen back in the days of Bush, but hopefully with a new administration we’ll have people who present facts accurately rather than people who cross the ‘separation of church and state’ boundary by receiving tax payer dollars to espouse religious views to teens across the country.

Here is a nice list of some of the most batshit insane abstinence educators for you to look at and hopefully support organizations that actually provide sex education.

Yes, yes I really did type “Abstinence Clown.” Derek Dye would wear horrific sweaters, balance ladders on his nose, and then tell teens, “Having sex before marriage is like juggling machetes.” Sadly, Derek was LOLed off the interwebs. Although his YouTube video had 20,000+ views, he pulled it, whined on his website about it “being taken out of context” and then disappeared. I would link to his site, but it is now gone. “Empowered by Truth” is now empowered by a placeholder ad. There is nothing quite as sad as the tears of an abstinence clown.

Profit margin: Derek Dye worked with the Elizabeth New Life Center which received a grant of $800,000. The Elizabeth New Life Center does actually have a website, but apparently they spent all of that money on a kink-seeking browser missile because the damn page persists on crashing my system every time I load it. Click at your own risk.
I don’t have to sell you on Mr. Lookadoo, because he has a video all about himself.
I know he sounds a little wacky in this video, but he’s pissed a few people off here or there. I think he’s a little sexist, myself, but please do me a favor and go Video #2 and tell me if I’m being paranoid. I just get the feeling he’s more than a little into subjugating vaginas.
Profit Margin: $1,995 for Justin to provide up to four screenings of his film “Look Before You Leap” at your school. Totally check out his most awesomely excellent film trailer. It’s rated “T” for teen because, “if it’s too intense, YOU’RE TOO OLD.”
Keith Deltano is famous for his CBT, I mean, his compelling educational device of holding cinderblocks over the testicles of 17 year old boys. There were videos of this, but when they got out among the rational world they were pulled for “copyright” infringement. Now I like a lot of kinky things. Terrorizing teenagers with concrete blocks is not one of them. Furthermore, I think there is some 2257 paperwork you have to fill out to do that.
Profit Margin: I don’t have an actual booking fee as it was not published on his site, but it did have this to say:

What about costs? Keiths fee is flat, it doesn’t matter if you have 300 or 3000 in attendance. Many organizations use a “community approach” by asking different groups/churches to donate towards covering expenses. Often the sponsoring organization does more than break even. They end up holding a youth/parent rally and a fundraiser.

Deltano is often funded through Crisis Pregnancy Centers who happen to get a lot of federal funding and private donations and he gets a booking fee as well. Double dipping, not bad, Keith.

Using the urban style of today’s youth, the Passion For Christ Movement or P4CM (as the kids call it these days) will not only come and speak at your event, they also have merchandise. All of your holiday shopping is complete:




Other options include: EX-abortionist, EX-Rebel, EX-lesbian, EX-atheist, and EX-hustler. I think that EX-slave is kind of cute, myself.
Profit Margin: I disagree with their mission and I think they are batshit insane, but these guys have integrity. The 1st Amendment includes them and they are upfront about a religious agenda and evangelism. They do not take tax payer dollars for their mission. They think I’m damned, I think they’re crazy, we both understand where the line between church and state is.

I have a special place in my heart for Pam Stenzel because I had to watch her videos in the 7th, 8th, and 11th grades. I have seen “Sex Has a Price Tag” as well as its sequel, “Sex STILL Has a Price Tag” in both the Christian and the secular versions. I remember the first time I heard her saying, “If you have sex outside of the context of marriage, you will pay,” and I knew it was bullshit then and I’m really fucking pissed off about it now.

This video shamelessly linked for free, but you can also buy the DVD for $20 from Pam directly.

Pam Stenzel got her degree from Liberty University and bases her knowledge and expertise as a speaker from her years at a “Pregnancy Crisis Center.” This is where a large amount of my vitriol for her originates. Everyone else on this list has walking nut-case red flags all over them. Pam Stenzel is not just stealth religious agenda taking federal cash, she has her roots in outright lies.
A pregnancy crisis center sounds a lot like a legitimate medical facility and does everything in its power to look and sound like a clinic. They offer free pregnancy tests and counseling and use deceptive titles like prochoice.com. Many websites and information resources detail the differences but these centers rely on an image of professional care when they are not medical providers. Check out some of these links if you aren’t familiar with the topic and then listen to the way Pam speaks about her days at the Pregnancy centers. She speaks very much like a clinician, but she does not actually possess a clinical background. Pam Stenzel has an incredible command of rhetoric. I think she is, without a doubt, the smartest person on this list. The others really wear their crazy on their sleeve and it colors everything they have to say. Pam has the same agenda and is just as batshit as the others, but her demeanor and skill make her infinitely more pernicious.
Profit Margin: $5000 a gig plus travel for two. She is traveling roughly 14 days out of every month. Ka-ching!
I mention profit because aside from P4CM, these folks have received federal dollars for their batshit insane approaches, ideas, and lies. Tax dollars. Your dollars. Hopefully this will meet its much needed end because comprehensive sex education is what our teens need.
“I am now going to give you the medical definition of sex. This is the medical line over which you cannot step. And if you have ever stepped over this line, you’ve risked disease and you need to get tested. And don’t you dare — don’t you dare! — tell anyone you’re a virgin…. Here is the line over which you cannot step: absolutely no genital contact of any kind. None. Yup, that includes oral sex. If you have had oral sex, you are not a virgin. And don’t you tell anyone that you are.” -Pam Stenzel in 2007


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Slut Shaming in Sin City

Las Vegas, a city we all revere as being as holy as the Vatican, has decided to crack down on the 50 most prolific prostitutes on the strip. Nevada does have legal brothels, but you have to drive out to the middle of nowhere to get to them because the exchange of sex for money is illegal in the best parts of the state. The Las Vegas Review Journal  has stepped up to the plate in obvious support of the cause by posting the full names and ages of many of these women without any regard to the possibility that there may be children back at home and in schools. Who cares? They’re the bastard children of whores.
It’s a good thing they’re doing this. The last time I went out to Vegas I was standing on the sidewalk in front of Treasure Island drinking something that was 3 feet tall and blue trying to enjoy the free promotional show “The Sirens of TI” because I wanted something from the place that had performed jihad on my wallet and I turned around saw this skank obviously trying to use her sex appeal to get men to spend some money. There are mobsters absolutely turning in their grave at the very notion that there is prostitution happening in the oasis that they founded. 

Cast of “The Sirens of TI” taken from the official Treasure Island Webpage

I was utterly appalled when I read that article and saw the mug shots with the names and ages of the girls and read their charges. All of them had trespassed  or loitered. Loitering! I would like to point out that you’re not loitering if you’re too drunk to figure out how the revolving doors work. That is some complicated shit, it’s like trying to jump in on a double-dutch game from hell especially after all of the free cocktails they give you at the gaming tables. Trespassing is also an incredibly rude thing to do to an establishment that has floor plans designed to keep you on the floor as long as possible without any clocks to indicate how much time you’ve spent. 
We have to bring back the sacred qualities of Las Vegas. Even their commercials talk about the epic battle between good and evil. 

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