Bike Messengers And Vice

Photograph by Lewis Hine

 ”Preston De Costa, fifteen year old messenger #3 for Bellevue Messenger Service. I ran across him and took photos while he was carrying notes back and forth between a prostitute in jail and a pimp in the Red Light district. He had read all the notes and knew all about the correspondence. He was a fine grained adolescent boy. Has been delivering message and drugs in the Red Light for six months and knows the ropes thoroughly. “A lot of these girls are my regular customers. I carry ‘em messages and get ‘em drinks, drugs, etc. Also go to the bank with money for them. If a fellow treats ‘em right, they’ll call him by number and give him all their work. I got a box full of photos I took of these girls – some of ‘em I took in their room.” Works until 11:00 P.M.” -Hine

Location: San Antonio, Texas. Date Created/Published: 1913 October. LOC original medium: 1 photographic print. 

Between 1908 and 1924 an investigative reporter and photographer named Lewis Hine documented the lives and conditions of children in the labor force and put his life’s work into creating reform. Today we have child labor laws to protect the most vulnerable among us in the United States because of the horror that these photographs instilled in Americans. Today, we send our labor abroad where we don’t have to contend with the daily evidence of labor exploitation.

There’s a lot to be said about this whole topic. While looking through these photographs, I did get to find out a lot about the early history of bike messengers. Today, the bicycle is a hip way to get around the Bay Area and messenger chic is all the rage. That isn’t to say that it’s entirely safe to get around San Francisco on a bike but the culture and industry thrives even now for quick local transport. Bikes still have the ability to get around town quicker than a car because of the traffic and parking problems and they’re still quite often the cheapest option in town.

What I didn’t know is just how engrained bike messengers were to the daily functioning of red light districts. Packages were sent to and from brothels, drugs were delivered across town with bike messengers who did not operate as government officials. The teenage bike messengers existed in between an image of the innocent youth (and with the overall conditions of child labor in factories and mines, which adolescent could be “innocent” in the ideal way we would like to think?) and the vice trade. Messengers c0uld be counted on to lead men to the hidden brothels and speakeasies.

Hines made it a point to ask his photographic subjects about their exposure to the “red light” district as he took their portraits. In fact, running errands for the red light and vice districts wound up being regarded as a more dire ill to children then many of the other hazards from factory or mine work. It was easier for the public to support shutting down a red light district by taking out the support staff that helped it function than to support children by taking them out of the mines and factories where they were killed and maimed regularly because that labor supported the country as a whole.

Looking through the archive, the youth seemed to have little negative to say about their clients in the vice district aside from the novelty of reading the scandalous notes passed between sex workers and their clients or pimps. Although it may be alarming to read about their transfer of drugs, formal drug prohibition was a hazy thing in this country. Plenty of good drugs we can only dream about were totally legal and well in the public circulation when these photos were snapped despite the fact that people knew the common recreational uses of everything.

It’s kind of a reminder that drug and sex trade prohibition is not a static issue in the country and that sometimes even vice is powered by bikes.

 

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How Not To Be A Douche In The Dungeon

I wrote this almost a year ago and posted it on Fetlife. Given that Fetlife is a closed system, I am reposting it here with in a slightly updated form. Feel free to syndicate by crediting with a link back to my website. 

Does everyone at the party always seem angry at you?

Have you been kicked out of events for inappropriate behavior?

Are you confused about what to do?

Here, now, in condensed form are some tips to help you make friends in the dungeon. This list is not a complete index, but rather a set of helpful hints to help squeeeegee your third-eye and open your mind.

  • Scene negotiations are like boxing negotiations. In the absence of express active consent, the actions involved in both activities are considered assault. Just because someone is a known boxer does not mean you can walk up and punch them.

    Much like the boxer, the person that you just randomly groped might punch you and for the same reasons.

  • The way to ask for consent to touch someone is to say, “Is it OK for me to hug you/touch you/pat your head/rub your belly/waka waka?” Then, wait patiently for a response. If the individual affirms in the positive, you may proceed. Waka waka, oh yes. However, it is important to note than a non-response is not a positive response. No waka waka. You must receive a positive affirmation before waka waka.
  • No one is issued a constitutional right to obtain a list of detailed reasons regarding a rejection. There are infinitely more reasons not to play than there are to play in any given moment. The reason most people cited when asked why they began a scene with a consenting partner was, “it was hot and we wanted to do it.”

    Reasons cited for not playing had much more diversity and ranged from responses like, “I’m not into leapfrog tea-bagging,” to, “I’m having an allergic reaction to shellfish!” If someone turns you down, you’re going to be okay and you don’t be a jerk about it. Your astrological signs didn’t match or maybe you had an unlucky color for a toy bag. Some people just aren’t “into” other people on certain days of the week. You never really know what’s going on with someone. Being an asshole about a rejection will only reduce your chances the next time you ask.

    It is also important to note that if you’re rude and hostile to someone who politely declined your offer, those witnessing the incident are likely to take it into consideration should you ever approach them. You never know when someone cute in the crowd has a particular fetish for people who treat others with respect.

  • If you are at a play party and you have some concerns as to whether or not you will be able to keep your hands off of people without their consent, you should talk to the DM or the party host and they will gladly offer you assistance. Remember, communicating with the DM keeps the party safe for everyone!
  • Compliments are super nice and we all appreciate them. They do not act, however, as “touching gift vouchers.” It’s great to love latex/leather/denim/furry suits/uniforms/cotton/chain mail/rope/plastic wrap/mayonaise/wax/naked/ dinosaur bones/The Hunt For Red October/accents/whatever the thing it is you love. Just because you love it, doesn’t mean you can stroke it.
  • Yes, that is a very nice flogger/whip/jump rope/daisy chain/macaroni salad that you have there. That statement is not an invitation to hit me with it.
  • Double check to make sure that the head of your cock is not slowly leaking seminal fluid when you first introduce yourself to a stranger unless you’ve received a special invitation from them to do so.
  • Do not provoke someone into domming you by being flirtatiously insolent and “accidentally” spilling things onto someone or mishandling their possessions and then suggesting a spanking for punishment. No waka waka. The idea that it’s totally acceptable to insult or provoke someone into anger in order to manipulate them into your fantasy scene represents something of a consent comprehension collapse. You aren’t being “naughty,” you’re being a douche.
  • Titties are the nebulous space between nudity and simply not wearing a shirt. There’s a lot  of politics around tits and their grey zone of relative public appropriateness. They mark a certain level of comfort that may not be about overt sexual active exhibitionism. If you’re hanging around and titties come out, don’t do anything that might potentially make the titties go away. This is called being part of the community or “the conservation of titties.” Don’t be the reason we can’t have nice things. Ask your peers to check in with you if they think your behavior might be offensive to titties. Welcome their advice. ‘Tis a far better thing to enjoy the titties from afar than never to have enjoyed the titties at all.
  • As anyone well versed in Risk Aware Consensual Kink (R.A.C.K.) will tell you, an out-of-control fire in the dungeon play space is a very bad thing. By taking the time to look up from the very hot scene you are voyeuristicly staring directly into to scan the room for any outbreaks of fire, you will not only contribute to the health and safety of everyone playing, you also reduce your risk of being the energy-sucking-vampire-creepy-douche!

    Remember, only you can prevent dungeon fires!

  • Recognizing someone as as a sex worker or educator does not entitle you special access to their space and privacy. Just because someone is a performer does not mean that they are performing. Just because someone is an educator, does not mean that they are giving a demonstration with a question-and-answer session.

    Respect dungeon courtesy for all people in the dungeon unless you have been otherwise invited. I hate to sound like a total hippie, but in the dungeon we’re all just kinky people indulging our kinks with someone(s) special. We want a chance to enjoy our scene, get lost in each other, and then enjoy some mutual aftercare. Our partner/s are our priority at that time. The social area is the preferred place to approach someone because right now we might be getting water for someone. Can’t chat. Go to go. ‘Ain’t personal. That teddy bear is for the bitch on the cross, not you.

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Unrealized Horror Films

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On the cover of [SSex

There are two films which strike utter horror into me when view them in one neat sitting. Mind you, I think they are also great films with competent acting, strong direction, catchy phrases, and an ability to get inside your head for extended and often unwanted periods of time. I will watch individual scenes of them entirely captivated but I always depart before the ending and the ugly gnawing feeling they give me when viewed in one complete dose.

These films are: The Wizard Of Oz (1939) and It’s A Wonderful Life (1946).

I watch slasher flicks with glee and cheesy horror with rapt attention and extensive note taking. My favorite film genres are horror, comedy, and pornography. When I was a child, I wasn’t allowed to watch the scary movies but I always ran straight into the horror section and studied the covers and synopsis on the back. I actually fare well in horror trivia for these reasons even though there are large gaps in my viewing record. Very little on the screen actually scares or terrifies me. I find the traditionally frightening quite exciting and entertaining. Nothing brings a smile to my face like a gory and bloody on-camera evisceration. I am delighted by the fact that it is not real. I love watching artists communicate their imaginations to me in a skillful way.

When I watch those above films from start to finish, however, I feel no delight in the human condition. I can be no longer at ease at the end of these films because of the way that they ultimately laud mediocrity and the status quo. Allow me to explain.

The story of Dorthy in Oz is amazing. It’s a neat and tidy hero’s journey with delightful imagery that has captivated audiences for years. I remember the first time I watched The Wizard Of Oz. I loved it all; the songs, the costumes, the characters, the sets, and even the flying monkeys. I loved it all. Even at that first childhood viewing, something unsettled me about that ending. It made the entire thing implausible in my mind I mentally deleted it from the record as a grievous error on the part of the editor, clearly.

Oz, you see, is a place of non-stop delight. On the heels of a string of major political victories resulting in the liberation of two large populations of people and finding out the bitter truth that all wizards are really humans behind curtains, Dorthy is offered a leadership role. Everything is in color, the city is a glamorous art deco, she has three gay best friends, her dog is at her side and yet the moral of the story is, for some unknown fucking reason, for her to return to a life in black and white in the midwest during the great depression. Dream big, but happiness can only be truly found in your own black and white, depression era back yard.

Even at a single digit age I had to ask what the fuck was wrong with Dorothy? “The Great Depression” or Oz is a “cake or death” question if you ask me. As I got older, the ending bothered me more and more. Then I stumbled into the great American classic that so many people can’t get enough of, Frank Capra’s It’s A Wonderful Life.

Legend has it that the character “George Bailey” was named after a canyon in the city where I spent my childhood and adolescence. Everyone knows lines from this movie at least because television stations will play it for 24 hours straight during the holiday season. Jimmy Stewart delivers his heartwarming performance and everyone knows that every time a bell rings, an angel gets it wings.

Now aside from the sentimental schlock that makes me run in terror the basic premise of the film is: some people are just destined for a life of total mediocrity. George Bailey has dreams. He longs to get out of his town and see the world, have a few adventures, get to really experience life. He watches other people go off and do great things. His brother is a war hero and he stays at home. He has a wife and children that he loves very much but he’s unfulfilled. Well guess what, George: no matter how big you dream, you no matter how strong you yearn, you will fuck up the world order with your own personal happiness. The status quo is the wonderful life.

I have no problems with claustrophobia in literally tight and closed off spaces. When I watch It’s A Wonderful Life I feel like I can’t breathe. I have to open a window and go for a walk. It hangs over me like a sense of dread. What is the fucking meaning of this movie and why is it the perennial classic? I always pretend that the people in the town took up a collection to send poor George Bailey, keeper of unrealized dreams, on a vacation somewhere on the other side of the world alone for a couple of a months. Give the poor guy something.

Langston Hughes wrote the antithesis of It’s A Wonderful Life with impeccable word craft in “Dream Deferred”:

What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore–
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over–
like a syrupy sweet?

Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.

Or does it explode?

 

 

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J. Edgar

The reviews about the new biopic about J. Edgar Hoover directed by Clint Eastwood had spoken of individual moments of greatness awash in an underwhelming sea. It was said that Leonard DiCaprio gave a strong performance but the editing had something lacking and that the narrative thread was coming apart at the seams. Amid this there was always something to compliment. Individual scenes were mentioned as highlights so long as one ignored most of their context. My own viewing backed much of this up; something was missing but there were moments when I was aware that powerful cinematic work was underway.

I’m the first to say that I’m a stubborn skeptic of Mr. DiCaprio’s acting but this is due largely to the trauma of having been in junior high when one of my most hated films ever was unleashed onto cinemas, sweeping the country into a mad frenzy over icebergs and tits. I felt as though my peers had all gone suddenly insane. The girls were carrying fold out pictures of one Mr. Leonardo DiCaprio. It literally happened overnight. I had always been to the sides and something of an outcast but one day I went to the school and a chasm had appeared in the visage of a young man with a severe widow’s peak and sandy hair. I’ve never been able to fully trust him as an actor since.

I recognize that this is a personal issue to work on and my therapist says I’ve made excellent progress.

Ever the cowboy, Clint Eastwood seemed reluctant to afford sexuality to his queer characters although sex is behind every corner as per its customary cameo in any film with the audacity to deliberately exclude it from the guest list.

Eastwood presents the picture that Hoover was gay and met a handsome young man willing to put up with all of his bullshit, and forged a lifelong partnership in a contentious political climate but never fucked, not even once, not even after listening to a specially commissioned audio recording of J.F.K. fucking Marilyn Monroe. There was a notable exception in the film’s blackmail list. Hoover went after a lot of people and certainly Martin Luther King, Jr. He also instigated a special investigation into Jack Valenti, the founder of the MPAA. It was rumored that Mr. Valenti, champion of the “family values” that determine whether or not a film is allowed to advertise or be openly distributed, was also having a gay lover affair.

I imagine it would be uncomfortable for a studio system supported project to delve into such uncomfortable territory.

That said, there was a scene between Dame Judi Dench and DiCaprio that stole my breath away. Edgar comes home from the nightclub after a pleasant conversation goes strikingly south when he is accosted by multiple people at once while with his partner. He begins to slip into his childhood stutter and his mother directs him to begin practicing his speaking exercises.

I have to give DiCaprio props for his thoughtful acting because I knew it was a coming out scene from the moment the camera came up between them. I could identify the tension in his body and the quickened breathing in his chest. He gave the kind of performance that is a reminder that there is something in coming out that is kind of like suicide. So often, people come out of the closet because the pain outmatches the fear. On the screen you could see the visible shift from pain in those stunted utterances, “You know I don’t like to dance,  with women,” into a fearful resignation at the end of his mother’s speech.

Judi Dench makes a formidable overbearing mother. She reminds Edgar of a young man whose nickname was “Daffy,” not as a reference to being “crazy” but as a shortened form of Daffodil. The young man was caught being queer and harassed until his suicide. She finishes the story by looking right at Edgar and saying, “I would rather have a dead son than a daffodil.” 

My eyes shut and I bowed my head in reverence. For what, I do not know. There was a searing pain there that flashed for a moment across the electric highways of my brain like an old bruise until my reason kicked in and reminded me that I was watching fiction. It’s all as untrue as Freddy Krueger. The film has a multitude of deficits but it shined there. DiCaprio displayed a deftness with his craft I didn’t know he had in him.

In many ways, the sex is removed from Hoover’s relationship to make him stand in more for that fearful metaphor that indulging in sex is a form of anarchy. Where many have grabbed the liquor bottle, the needle, or the playing cards to cope we see Hoover go for control. He maintained a constant vigilance against those who challenged authority, namely his.

That’s what’s so agonizingly painful about the decision to keep him chaste for what was, at best, the work of a film maker constructing a metaphor or, at the more likely, a fear of constructing a man on man romance that is both erotic, loving, and lifelong. The whole point is that some of the worst anti-sex politicians have also been realeaved to have had exciting and lewd lives who constructed a paradigm in which their sins could be forgiven through legislation rather than self-flagellation. Our culture is terriefied that people who lay back and enjoy the pleasures of their own bodies will break the floodgates of civilization. We are resolutely human with all of the rights, privileges, and illogical quagmires therein.

As far as my politics go, it shouldn’t shock you that I lean a bit to the left. A bit more than that. Just a bit more. Right about there. I’ve always been a bit ambivalent about Hoover. On one hand, he was a strong proponent of science. Without Hoover, we might not have had Quantico. Without Quantico, we would have no Silence Of The Lambs. It’s important to keep these things in perspective. On the other hand, he was a rabid dick weasel. That cannot be ignored, either. I’ve always regarded him as something of a compelling figure but I never anticipated encountering any form of media that would make me want to retroactively give J. Edgar Hoover a hug. Even with all of the films flaws, poorly stitched narrative structure, and trepidation with sex it’s impossible to call it a failure of filmmaking.

It’s a portrayal of Hoover as a human creature who was more than just the sum of his own flaws but also a product of his times. I had never stopped to consider whether or not J. Edgar Hoover could have been on the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder spectrum in his insatiable need to control and micromanage everything in his context. When humans develop obsessions and compulsive behaviors, it is very often linked to excruciatingly deep anxiety and fear.

The story of J. Edgar Hoover as a political figure is the very essence of why a government must be of the people, by the people, and for the people. We shall never, among humans, find an individual who sees the world from outside of their own perspective. This is why diversity is paramount in leadership. The only for a government to see and take into account the needs of all people is for it to be composed of all people. There must be checks and balances and fair representation across classes, genders, sexualities, ethnicities,  and physical abilities. J. Edgar Hoover had the unchecked power to unquestionably indulge his perspective and define justice at his own discretion. When fear and hatred are given the space to prevail, they will. It is almost as if corruption is a dominant gene in the human species.

I do feel empathy for the pain of anyone with an alternative sexuality living in an anti-sex culture. Being a queer kid at a Catholic school was hard enough, I cannot imagine coming up in politics at a time when being outed as queer did mean the end of your public career. At the same time, acting from pain does not entitle one to punish, hurt, or use others to relieve it. I think it’s important to recognize the cycles of abuse and fear and how to shape the course of history, law, and justice and to break them by persistently presenting a case for the spectrum of human difference that makes us so beautiful.

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More Musings On #OWS

But what do the protesters want? It’s so chaotic. There are signs about Palestine, abortion, foreclosure, wall street, the police, global warming, everything! It’s just a meaningless display taking up resources and making things worse. They need to go away.

Well, that’s what I hear a lot of people saying. I get that. Intersectionality is a hard thing to grapple with and it still makes me feel like rocks are breaking in my head when I sit down and really think about it. A lot of America is in denial about the fact that the blood coming out of the bath tub, the thumping up the stairs when no one is there, the flying dishes in the kitchen, the way the appliances all suddenly turn on at once and then shut down completely, the apparition of a wailing woman in the hallway, the congregation of flies on the wall paper might indicate the presence of a malicious poltergeist that must me exorcised from our midst before it kills us all.

You can’t miss the forest for the trees in situations like these. Pain to the others should not be accepted as an unavoidable side effect of the power and success of the exceptionally few. It is foolish to create protective barriers around bazillionaires that keep them free from restrictions or justice because you hope to some day be a bazillionaire for the same reason it would be foolish not to worry about the paying the rent because you bought a lottery ticket. Occupy Wall Street is hardly about revolution so much as it is about reformation. It’s calling the far reaches of the rich out of motherfucking bounds.

Then there’s the camping issue. It’s so messy, it’s a health hazard, it slows business, if you let the homeless in you WILL have problems, professionals need to handle that. I’ve spent many years working with the homeless so I have something to say about that. First and foremost, the “professionals” do not have it under control. Why? There’s a lot of corporate interest in there, too. When I worked at a multi-million corporate styled non-profit agency, I was prohibited from acting in the best interests of my clients when it came to education about safer substance use, specifically IV drug use.

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The Road To Shameless

Maggie’s Note: I’m reposting this amazing event at the Center For Sex and Culture TOMORROW NIGHT, 11-15-11 in San Francisco. If you’re in the area, go check it out and support sexual assault survival storytelling.
(This announcement contains references to sexual assault and recovery.)
YOU ARE INVITED – ONE NIGHT ONLY
Dixie De La Tour, Bawdy Storytelling and Stories 2 Stop Rape
present a one-night only performance by National Story Slam Champion Nancy Donoval:
THE ROAD TO SHAMELESS:
A Survivor’s Tale of Sexual Assault and Healing

 Written and performed by Nancy Donoval
“[Nancy Donoval] has mastered the art of telling stories that are
funny and heart-wrenching at the same time.”
- Chicago Reader, Critic’s Choice
Advance tickets at:
7:00 – Doors Open
7:30 – Show Starts
Q&A follows the performance.
The Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street, San Francisco
“Nancy’s story is as much for men as women.
Beautiful, difficult, heartfelt stories — this show is a gift.”
- Kevin Kling – Playwright, NPR Commentator, Author of The Dog Says How
Flat Rate Tickets:
$12 advance / $15 at the door

Sliding Scale Tickets
Pay What You Can Afford $5 – $25 (advance and at the door)
No one turned away for lack of funds.

Listen to Nancy’s story slam-winning excerpt of
The Road to Shameless on Chicago Public Radio at:

“An experience of exhilarating liberation! There are so many
people in my life that I want to hear this story.”
- Elizabeth O’Sullivan, audience member
Tickets at:
Whether survivor, friend or family many of us struggle with how to talk openly about sexual violence. The issue can become even thornier when survivor and assailant know each other. Nancy Donoval was a 19-year-old freshmen theater major when she went out for a night of fun and drinking and was sexually assaulted by a friend.  She knew what had been done to her was awful, but she didn’t know to call it rape. Like a lot of people, she thought sexual assault meant a stranger in a dark alley, not someone you trust in a place you thought was safe.
 
Today, Nancy is a critically acclaimed performing artist specializing in performance memoir that finds humor in the hard stuff of life such as grief and loss, body image, disability and sexual violence.  Nancy won the 2010 National Story Slam Championship with an excerpt from The Road to Shameless, her one-woman show that turns the experience of being a sexual assault survivor into powerful, transformative public art.  This witty, compassionate tale speaks the unspeakable with humor and grace making what might seem too difficult not only bearable but, in the words of one audience member, “an experience of exhilarating liberation.”
“Like the best storytellers, [Nancy Donoval] transforms the events in the telling and
ultimately arrives at a deeply meaningful hope.  [Told] with self-deprecating
wit and quirky insight…profoundly moving.”
- William Randall Beard
Minneapolis Star Tribune
More than an account of a sexual assault, The Road to Shameless puts rape in the context of Nancy’s life as a daughter, sister, girlfriend, theater artist, and budding activist. Using her skills as a storyteller, she gently invites us into key moments in her journey of survival: wearing overalls to erase any sign of being a girl; acting in plays with her assailant after the assault; finally being given the word ‘rape’ for what was done to her by someone she was dating–while they were sitting on his bed and he was lobbying for sex; how friends and family reacted when she told them; and the long twisting path from denial and silence to recovery and healing and eventually to becoming an outspoken voice for change.
Artful and wise. This is pitch-perfect storytelling, witty as the
best stand-up comedy but with a brilliant structure that
delivers the audience to its dead-serious heart.
- Patricia Weaver Francisco
Author, Telling: A Memoir of Rape and Recovery
Last month, as part of her work as a sexual violence educator for college campuses (www.Stories2StopRape.com), Nancy took this show back to where it happened, meeting with and telling her story to current members at the fraternity house where her attacker had lived and the assault took place. It was a powerful experience for all involved and highlighted the need to tell and listen to difficult stories such as these if we are to change our culture to embrace both “Yes” and “No” without shame.

“I learned there was hope and humor and healing somewhere in the hell.”
- Kenzie K., Augsburg College
“Nancy tells a story filled with meaning and has somehow found
a way to use humor in a discussion about recovery from violence.
Her words are powerful, revealing and ultimately healing.”
- Roberta Gibbons, Asst. Professor
Violence Prevention and Intervention, Metropolitan State University
For more info on Nancy and her programs:

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Porn And Accessibility: Call For Transcribers


When Ned and I started Meet The Mayhems, we wanted to make a porn website that reflected our sexuality on our terms and was welcoming and accessible to our desired audience. We believe that accessibility is vital but with a two person team running the entire show from the back to the front we’re far from perfect. Accessibility is about a lot of different things all at once and there is no finite finish line of accessibility. It is a never ending process and we put in our work to check our own perspective/privilege and consider the needs of different people who might be on the hunt for the erotic content we enjoy making.

On a technical level, accessibility is about making sure that the website itself is viewable to people with a diverse array of operating systems, browsers, and internet connection speeds. Between the two of us, there’s still a lot of work to be accomplished on that front. Often times it is work that you may not see because your OS, browser, and connection makes everything 100% visible, clear, and relatively easy to navigate. That’s awesome! We also want to make sure that someone with different resources can also get there and to do so means staring at hundreds of lines of code to identify glitches and broaden our technical accessibility.

Keywords and vocabulary are another part of accessibility. Even if the video or photos are super sexy and hot to a given audience, the language associated with the content might be a major turn off to some folks. While we are fully aware that no matter what we do, the art and science of attraction means that we won’t ever be able to get everyone off sexually. We also want to keep our language in check to make sure that we aren’t using language abusive to experiences that are not our own. It’s a fine line to walk: we have to contend with the likes of the anti-porn legions who believe that depicting a naked and sexual woman is oppressive in and of itself and as well as legitimate criticisms about our own blind spots.

One area we want to put time and effort into it is closed captioning for anyone who would like to know what is being said but cannot hear it for whatever reason. Sometimes our sound sucks because we don’t have external microphones, sometimes having the sound on is a liability to your porn watching, and some folks hear sound differently or not at all. We are looking for volunteers to help transcribe our porn. We’re looking for just a few people to help us out on this front because we don’t have very much yet but we will be putting out lots of new content.

If you want to check out our porn and can lend a hand writing down the dialogue word for word, send us an email: info@meetthemayhems.com. We’ll set you up with a lifetime membership to the website in exchange for your hard work. For those who have a name they would like credited, please let us know. If you have your own website or blog we’ll help get you setup with an affiliate account as well if you’re interested. Thanks for your interest and pass on the good word!

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Born In Flames: A Film By Lizzie Borden

Real life activist and lawyer Florynce Kennedy in "Born In Flames"

There’s so much I love about Born In Flames , a film written, directed, and edited by Lizzie Borden. It’s a landmark film about some of the different stripes of feminism and how they might work together to overthrow a fictional US socialist democracy established after a bloodless revolution of (presumably) the 1960s. It’s a what-if experiment that has fun with editing and film art. It’s very low budget and homegrown but a fun and inspiring watch.

It’s a good film to watch now in the middle of the Occupy Wall Street Movement taking off because of the way it shows activism happening. Motion and action are the recurring visual themes of the movie as montages of women working, in casual settings, and engaging in activism play constantly. A condom rolls onto a penis in one shot, a woman wraps raw chicken in cellophane for a supermarket, people type, do construction, wheat paste fliers, and on and on.

In one of the most commented upon scenes in the film, the camera focuses on a woman being pestered by two men in a situation that escalates to assault. When it starts to become violently triggering the camera pulls back to an overhead shot of the street filling with women on bicycles who come to the rescue. They fend off the would-be rapists and comfort the victim. They activism begins with community work and street based outreach, one-on-one’s and pamphletting. The verite style of the daily real work of activism mixed with protest footage makes the bicycle action seem plausible even in an age without twitter.

Watching the film with the lens of activism today, it’s easy to dream of what we’re capable of accomplishing for equality. The film asks an important question: what would happen if women’s rights activists picked up arms to defend themselves? One of the protagonists, Honey, recites a Malcom X Speech in a powerful closeup changing the language to refer to women’s issues. Florynce “Flo” Kennedy makes an appearance in the film as a mentor and godmother of the revolutionary action of the film’s army of women.

Flo Kennedy was a brilliant hell stallion of an activist and lawyer. Her work remains very inspiring to me. In the film, her character takes the name “Zella” which also happens to be the name of her mother. Her autobiography is a really interesting take on “radicalism’s rudest mouth” and outrageous pioneer. One of her famous actions was a response to Harvard University’s absence of women’s restrooms. (Because how many women could be expected to be at Hahhh-varrrddddd?) She organized a mass urination to protest. That’s some provocative and effective activism right there. One of the film’s protagonists is talking to Zella about her fears and doubts as a leader and activist and the process of coming to her realization that it is time for her movement to pick up arms. It’s clear she’s worried about acceptance but Zella responds with a dead pan, “What took you so long?”

 The characters do not represent psychologies so much as they represent politics. The trio of female journalists represent the academic feminism which is very often moderate and centrist in nature. There is a brief commentary on this fact as they turn their attention and support to the women’s army. Punk anarchism, black liberation, African feminism, and queer politics are also represented in the film in a fictional harmony of working alongside one another and ultimately together.

The grittiness of the film makes it a very realistic watch. It was also good to see quick moments of eros and a principal character wearing a pro-marijuana shirt during a scene without too much time or attention spent on the backdrop of sex and drugs in the background of the revolution. Flo Kennedy understood the importance of laughter and good times and it’s important to show that radicals aren’t all 24/7 wired for the revolution and do take time to listen to some tunes, crack open a beer, spark up a joint, and enjoy some sexy times. What kind of a revolution could exist without that?

Setting the film in a socialist democratic America after a “bloodless” revolution also hearkened to the way that seemingly progressive agencies use words without action while acting as oppressors. Enemies of the women’s army frequently comment that there can’t really be discrimination against women because they’re an equal socialist democracy. Sure, sure, sure, there are rapes but there aren’t that many rapes. Women’s interests are selfish interests because they don’t have everyone in mind. There is a lot examined in the relatively short run time of the movie.

If you’re interested in feminism or activism or radicalism in general this film is a must see. Great film for discussion nights after a day of filming indie queer porn.

It’s worth checking out at Amazon or instantly on Netflix.

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The Prime Time Independent Woman

Full disclosure: I don’t have a television.

This phrase is usually connected to hipsterism but when I went to college I made the conscious decision not to bring a television with me and I’ve never felt the need to introduce one into my living space. This isn’t to stay I’m television abstinent, I just pick and choose based on reviews or word of mouth what I should seek out to watch. Television has a way of sucking people in by offering a lot of filler content. I benefit from not having the option to sit and just accept what’s on because I’m always forced to look for something in particular. There are some elements of television I am very familiar with and a lot that I’ve totally missed out on and don’t really feel any worse for wear. 

PBS has put out a documentary series on prime time archetypes and the first volume was on “The Independent Woman.” The full episode is currently up for free streaming and it’s worth a watch even though it wasn’t the most subversive commentary you could hope to see. The AV club and Bitch both had mixed feelings as well. Roseanne Barr did stand out as a fantastic and very sincere interview. A lot was left out and there was a heavy focus on newer television that ignored a lot of characters who were innovations on the notion of the “independent woman.”

For one, the feature focused on women around the ages of 30-40 leaving out the narratives of both young and old characters who were innovations on the notion of independent women. Those hoping to see “The Golden Girls” and “My So Called Life” mentioned will be disappointed. In many ways, it’s a broad category that is defined in this documentary around depictions of motherhood primarily. “Independence” has been marked by moving away from the image of perfection and into an examination of the flaws but it also stayed immediately around the notion of relationships, marriage, and motherhood. Queerness was not mentioned and at least twice there was the sentimental comment about how raising children is “the most admirable job of all.”

Here’s the rub: I don’t disagree with that statement but it’s fucking annoying when it’s a man with a high power and successful television job saying it to me. It’s condescending and in the context of “independent women” you get the vibe that men who raise children are not even being remotely considered here. The conversation is about how women balance mothering their children and a career or lack of career or mourning for a career without presenting an ounce of conversation of women as primary breadwinners to partners of any gender raising kids at home. This is problematic because of the end commentary: everyone can see themselves depicted on television today! I’m still in shock that someone could say that with a straight face.

Abortion: not a topic uttered in this show. That’s because you don’t see it on television. You could probably produce a miniseries titled the “deus ex machina miscarriage” and the “not really pregnant” plot twist. Ignoring Roe V. Wade was conspicuous especially because some of the shows they featured did include the subject of abortion in their plot lines.

If you removed Roseanne Barr from the documentary you would cut out most of the most critical commentary. She introduced class and workplace production issues into the equation. The documentary definitely focused on the depiction of character rather than who creates these characters. The focus on newer television seemed to come from an active effort to solicit commentary from women who write and produce television featuring independent women. There is something really important in that especially with men talking about how grand and noble motherhood is. It’s always awkward when someone says something like they’re doing a favor.

There was strikingly little commentary about race in primetime women. Women’s liberation is mentioned but movements centered around people of color were left out. I recognize that it’s hard to sum up something as broad as independent women but it’s frustrating to see the same kind of narrative repeated as the norm. What we see on television today is no more or less real than what was on in the 1950s. The documentary seems to forget this fact. Television is fiction with a heavy focus on consumerism.

Future episodes will be about the “Man Of The House”, the “Misfit”, and the “Crusader.” Given that many actors and actresses playing compelling roles offered commentary on “Independent Woman” without a spotlight on their work in particular, especially Elisabeth Moss, aka “Peggy Olsen” who offered lots of interview footage without any examination of her character on Mad Men. Looking at the lineups for future episodes on the “Man Of The House“, “The Misfit“, and “The Crusader” it was interesting to see that Moss will be back for more interview footage on the episode “Man Of The House.”

There’s an ironic humor to be found in the fact that Elisabeth Moss is featured for commentary about independent women and the “man of the house” but doesn’t have her phenomenal work on Mad Men examined at all despite her climb into independence as a woman breaking into a man’s workplace. Talk about typecasting.  Also of note: Gillian Anderson, aka “Dana Sculley” will be appearing on the episode about “The Crusader” but did not appear on the “Independent Woman.” I know that interview footage for a documentary is largely about who you can book but it’s strange to see who they had in the room and what kind of screen time they had in the end.

What I felt the most curious about at the end of the documentary on the “Independent Woman” was what got cut on the editing floor. I really hope that Roseanne Barr’s interview gets released in full because she said so many interesting things and I would love to see and hear her elaborate on them more.

 

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Woman’s POV

I keep Feynman close to my heart and tits.

Have you checked out The Woman’s POV?

Madison Young and Maxine Holloway teamed up to create a website designed to titillate and arouse the body and mind with erotic play of the female gaze. They also have a set of ethics behind their smut:

Values

The Woman’s POV is dedicated to the authentic documentation of female pleasure and orgasms. We realize the power of orgasm and plan on changing the world one climax at a time.

We are devoted to showing diversity in female identity, the expression of feminine sexual desire, diversity of body types, as well as a wide spectrum of sexual and gender identities.

We are devoted to empowering women and creating safe space for exploration of sexual desires and fantasies by handing women in our community the camera. Its time to turn on the camera and get turned on.

We are dedicated to obliterating body shame and sexual negativity through realizing and documenting of our sexual desires and our sexual culture.

We are ready to reclaim the term pornography and recruiting YOU and YOUR LOVER/S and FRIENDS to pick up the camera and show us YOUR POINT OF VIEW.

 

 

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